My Christmas wish

This time of the year most of us get asked the same question pretty frequently…what do you want for Christmas? wish list In the past, I have been able to think of a few things I would really like to have-an outfit, a pair of shoes, something for our house, etc.  We can always think of something we would like to have that we may not would buy for ourselves right?  After thinking about it a lot this year, the one thing I want more than anything and the one thing I do not want to live without is, the health of my loved ones.

In order to truly understand this Christmas wish, it’s important to have some background information.  This year on Thanksgiving Day, I visited 3 different hospitals in 3 different counties.  Yes, you read that right…3 people very near and dear to me spent their Thanksgiving in a hospital rather than at home with us, their family.  I am happy and thankful to report everyone is doing ok, and seems to be recovering well, but that does not dilute the reality that being in good health is usually underrated and often taken for granted.  Continue reading

Happy Birthday-Get Flossy!

happy-birthday-ballons-wallpaperJust over a year ago I began a brand new adventure when I wrote and published the very first post on Get Flossy! I had no idea where the journey would take me, but I was up for the challenge and excited about the possibilities.  Throughout the past year I have shared my thoughts and fears, explored questions and definitely followed my curiosity. Along the way, I have learned so much about people, life and myself. Continue reading

Do you hide your scars?

demi-scarsWe all have scars. Some are literal, physical scars and some are not visible, but are still very real. During breast cancer awareness month, I have seen pictures of women with huge scars across their chest from radical mastectomies without reconstruction. They are proud to show their scars because they know the scar isn’t a sign weakness, intimidation or defeat-they are proof of life.

I have roughly a 6-inch scar down my back from a spinal fusion in 2008. Honestly, I’m glad it’s on my back so unless I intentionally look at it, it’s not something I have to see every day. I can’t imagine having a constant reminder of a time that was difficult and painful physically, emotionally and mentally. However, I know for sure that scar allows me to walk and live without tremendous pain and dramatically improves my quality of life on a daily basis. Continue reading

Are you making choices to create the life you want?

In the course of one day, we make hundreds of choices-some little, some seemingly inconsequential, some routine, some major. Have you ever stopped to take the time to think about those choices and if they are leading you to the life you want? If not, maybe it’s time to rethink some of those choices.

It’s no secret that I have been known to be a little resistant to change in the past and I’m certainly not in the minority. Often people resist change so much that they refuse to make choices that will create any change or rock their boat. However, by not changing, you are indeed making a choice. Inaction is just as much a choice as taking action, it just typically leads to no change. That’s why it’s important to utilize all 3 C’s of life: choice, chance, change. Continue reading

What are you celebrating today?

Most of us do not have birthdays, weddings, or major celebrations every day, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t something to celebrate every day. Are you breathing, healthy, happy, have a stable home, loving family, amazing friends? If you answered yes to any of these, you have something to celebrate!

This past week has been such a wonderful week of celebrations! The festivities kicked off Thursday at the Celebrating Hope Luncheon hosted by Women of Hope (a not for profit organization that supports women with cancer and their families). I was thrilled and honored to be the keynote speaker for this very special event! I wanted to share a few of the points from the lunch with you too, so here are three of my favorites: Continue reading

My journey to a dream

MA crownI remember like it was yesterday; it was a Saturday night in late June when I watched Kelly Dawn Fletcher be crowned Miss North Carolina 1989 and my life was forever changed. It was in that very moment I realized my dream was to become Miss North Carolina. Throughout the next few years I watched every June as one young woman was given the unique and wonderful opportunity to travel the state of NC making appearances, compete at Miss America and to leave a lasting impact that would resonate for years to come.

The first Miss North Carolina I had the chance to meet in person, was Jennifer Vaden Smith, Miss NC 1991. To say I was smitten, star struck and speechless is an understatement! Not only was she incredibly beautiful, approachable and all around amazing, she was petite like me and she instantly stole my heart. If there was any question in my mind about my future goals, they were all answered the moment I met Jennifer. Continue reading

What happens between the dates, in the “dash”?

Granny-editThis is by far the most difficult post I have ever written, as it is the most personal of all of them combined. It’s not about me, but about my Grandmother-Granny Reason. On August 26th Granny said she said she wanted to “go home” from the rehab facility where she was recovering from a recent fall. Granny was all packed up and ready to go, but told my aunt she needed to lay down and rest for a minute because she was so tired. The truth is, she was tired…very tired. Throughout her 80 years, she was a woman of tremendous faith, a devoted wife for more than 50 years and a dedicated mother to 6 children. Continue reading

What do you take for granted?

somebody-is-praying-for-the-blessings-you-take-for-granted Your health, your family, friends, career, access to education, the ability to drive a car, hot water, electricity…from the most important and irreplaceable, to things we use every day without a second thought, most of us take a lot for granted as we move about our daily lives. What would you do without any one of those? How would your life change? Continue reading

Learn, Grow, Teach

teach learn growAs a Pirate (Alumni of East Carolina University) and a huge football fan, I was interested to watch as Earnest Byner spoke to the 2015-2016 ECU football team last week during the first day of practice. He comes to the meeting with incredible credentials; 14 year career in the NFL-playing for the Baltimore Ravens, Cleveland Browns, Washington Redskins and a member of the ECU Hall of Fame.

He referenced some great life lessons in the speech-being clear on your intentions, having discipline, personal development and the benefits of teamwork. In my opinion, the most profound part of his speech was when he talked about the cycle and requirement to learn, grow and teach. It certainly applies to all of the people in that room, but I think it goes much further than that…I think it applies to all of us every day (you can watch the entire speech here). Continue reading

Release the stress and release your inner awesome!

masterpieceA few days ago I saw Today show’s Hoda Kotb’s quote of the day. It said-Relax, not every page has to be a masterpiece. I think this quote really speaks to the stress and pressure we (at least me) put ourselves under every day. Sometimes it can be so intense and such a powerful force that it almost handicaps our ability to be all that we are meant to be.  Wouldn’t it be nice to let that go of that stress and enjoy more of our life?

We are all juggling so many things…family, jobs, life, etc.. The desire to give all we can often puts us under so much pressure that we act in ways and live our lives in ways that almost make us different people. could havesWe have this insatiable need to please and need to make others happy. We are almost socially forced to believe we have to make everyone else happy before we make ourselves happy. But wait, isn’t that backwards? Regardless of how much we love someone, how in the world can we make someone else happy if we aren’t happy? Most of the time we can’t, so let’s stop setting ourselves up to be unsuccessful and prepare ourselves for triumph by releasing the stress and pressure!

I know we are all under stress. Some days, and at some times that stress can be tremendous. So how do we release it? Great question! These are a few things I think can help: Continue reading